Friendship. This is the beginning, the middle and the end of the spiritual path.
- Sivan Garr
On: Friendship
Deep and radical caring. What does that mean?
Does it mean you have to help every friend move?
Does it mean you have to go to every party, even if 3 are on the same night?
Does it mean that you have to feed every single hungry person in the world?
Deep and radical caring means that inside of yourself, you agree that every other person’s well-being is as important as your own. It does not mean you are responsible for the happiness of others. It means you acknowledge, deeply and radically, that they are as important as you are, everyone!
When everyone’s needs are as important, choices and decisions are arrived at easily with much less, if any, friction.
- Sivan Garr
My family moved nearly every year as I was growing up. As a result, I learned very quickly how to make friends fast and how to totally drop people from my life and heart each time we had to move. I had once felt the pain of being seriously rebuffed by a friend whom I loved very much and had tried to continue a friendship with after moving. At that point I made an inner decision to terminate my feelings when I felt I needed to, in order to lessen or eliminate pain. “Friends forever” was never a concept that occurred to me, or even felt like a possibility.
Many of us have conditions when it comes to making connections with others. Sivan explains how we can make powerful connections without those limitations.
Sivan explains how compassion and humbleness feel.