It helps to understand the basics of how the practice of releasing pain works. I have listed some basic guidelines upon which you can build, below.
Sivan discusses how hurt feelings can hold us back and how you can go beyond it.
There is something magnificent about imperfection, silliness, goofyness and the all around ability to just BE!
- Sivan Garr
Sivan discusses the concept of learning the art of asking the questions that will help you get in touch with the deepest part of yourself.
Everyone has experienced the loneliness and frustration of not being in a relationship but wanting to be in one. Sometimes when we are single, we believe that we will never find a perfect lover/partner again. The prospect of finding our mate can feel so daunting – so, for all of you looking for your lover, this is for you!
Many people come to me because they want to change something big – about themselves or something in their life, or something in the people around them.
I have had people that wanted to figure out how to guarantee that their mate would never leave them, or that their children would always be happy and healthy, or that they would most assuredly get the promotion they want, or that they would suddenly get wealthy.
While we all have a certain amount of control of our destiny, the truth is that it is somewhat of an illusion and somewhat temporary.
The experience of devastation by tornados in Joplin, Missouri recently is a reminder to all of us of that fact. We cannot control the weather, freak accidents, or time. We cannot control another person’s desires or destiny. And, we cannot physically live forever.
There was a very brave and courageous man that talked on national TV about losing both of his sons in the Joplin tornado. Most of us could imagine the pure and unadulterated pain and devastation this man must be going through. But, despite this pain, he was driven to share his experience, he was willing to cry on camera, he was willing to connect deeply with all of us in his time of need. I was amazed at his strength and touched by his candor.
It is a very intense and sensitive discussion. How can one build an inner fortitude without it looking like suppression and denial? How can one face pain in a powerful way, without belittling it? How can we let go of believing that we can control our lives without letting go of our responsibility to do the best we can at creating a fulfilled life? How can we fully understand the tragedies that can occur without succumbing to any feelings of hopelessness?
It is getting the answers to these questions that give us the power to flourish in uncertainty and build a foundation that can support of through life’s curveballs.
I once had a student that believed beyond a shadow of a doubt that God was angry at him if it was raining on his day off work. While a part of him understood that was irrational, a part of him still believed it. I could not teach him how to control the rain. But, I could help teach him acceptance, surrender, and compassion for himself when he couldn’t seem to accept circumstances. I could even share with him different perspectives of how to look at his circumstances. I could also show him how to heal the parts of him that felt so betrayed.
Everyone has places they feel pain. Past experiences they flinch at. Pieces of the future they fear. And, everyone can heal. Everyone can love. Everyone can shine!
My heart and love and prayers go out to everyone in Joplin, Mo.
My heart and love and prayers go out to you!
Your very own happiness, gives others around you permission to experience their happiness. This is a fundamental truth of healers.
- Sivan Garr
Do you have memories of moments in your past that you feel ashamed of or embarrassed by? Perhaps you felt manipulated, or pressured, or bullied to do something you would not normally have done? Do any of these memories still cause you to cringe or feel bad?
In another post we talked about eye contact and about being empathetic. Today, I would like to discuss touch.
The touch I am speaking of is a touch on the shoulder – a pat on the back or a hug. You get it!
We all know that human touch can be very healing, nurturing and is vital for our emotional and physical health and well-being.
Sivan is a unique genius. I believe that there are few people of her caliber alive today. It has been a miracle and privilege to have had her in my life for nearly ten years now.
Every minute I spend with her is an expansive experience. Her brilliant clarity blows me away. She is able to illustrate the most intricate spiritual concepts in a way that makes sense. Sivan redefines possible. She has catapulted my entire life on every level. There is no amount of money, gift, or words that I could offer that would be enough to thank her with. She has profoundly changed the trajectory and sustainability of my happiness in the deepest, most sincere ways.