When I was 20, I was in a serious head-on collision car accident while I had my (very new) baby in the car with me. I was driving home from work, and usually, my husband (at the time) and I commuted together. But, for a reason I don’t now remember, that night, we drove home separately. My daughter was strapped into her car seat, next to me in our Pinto.
Writings & Reflections
Growing your Healer self is a fun and adventurous process filled with questions, challenges and even riddles!
After I wrote about Empaths and practices for releasing pain, many people responded with what seemed to be a number one concern, This concern was stated very clearly – they do not want to release the pain they are carrying because they don’t want it to be available to harm anyone else.
A common statement I hear from people I work with is, “I don’t feel like I deserve good things.” This is an amazingly prevalent feeling and thought process. This is an inner program that stops them from ‘getting in line with their dreams’.
This is the ego working to put up barriers to the full freedom of their self-expression.
Everyone has experienced the loneliness and frustration of not being in a relationship but wanting to be in one. Sometimes when we are single, we believe that we will never find a perfect lover/partner again. The prospect of finding our mate can feel so daunting – so, for all of you looking for your lover, this is for you!
Just starting is the first key to success in anything! The second key to success is to keep going, putting one foot in front of the other and never, ever quit! However, the third and most critical key to success is that –
Success happens precisely in the Current Moment!
Success happens in the Right Now. In the Perpetual Present. This means that you say yes to exactly what Now asks of you. If you are not sure what that means you can monitor it by considering that the primary element of your Now experience is absolute self-care.
A very important tool for successfully navigating the spiritual path is to use your life experience from the past as a stable reference point. From this point, every day, you create clear markers of your progress. You recognize these experiential milestones over and over again; repeating and remembering their defining qualities and contrasting them against the perspective of your present moment experience.
Here is the reason why this is important.
As people progress along their path, their negative voice can become louder.
Many people come to me because they want to change something big – about themselves or something in their life, or something in the people around them.
I have had people that wanted to figure out how to guarantee that their mate would never leave them, or that their children would always be happy and healthy, or that they would most assuredly get the promotion they want, or that they would suddenly get wealthy.
My birthday is January 1st, so the beginning of my year of a new age, and the new year for us all have always been one and the same. This always seemed very profound to me.
My brother, who is two years older, has the same birthday. When we were small children, we would both have fleeting moments where we thought we were twins, but then we would remind ourselves that we were two years apart.
At some point, just stop listening to your negative voices. Stop taking them seriously. Stop telling everyone all about them over and over. Stop believing in their value. Stop believing them. Stop believing that if you find solutions, or if you get that facelift, or lose that weight, or win the lotto, or get that boy/girlfriend, or have the right friends, or get the break you need, or find someone to help you, or have that important somebody say their sorry, that everything in life will be okay.